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I first met Pong Suk Lee, known simply as Pong to his American friends, in upstate New York in the mid-1960s. He was a freshly minted Ph.D. and I yet a wannabe. He was an audiophile talking knowledgeably about the McIntosh stereo, while I was content with a couple of Harry Belafonte's calypso records played on a portable player (which in those days was a big deal, I thought). He was an avid skier; rumor had it then that skiing added extra years to his completing the dissertation.
Soon after I got my sheepskin, we decided to write a paper together. It was to be our first publication. To publish seemed rather easy at the time, not knowing that it was only the beginners' luck. [Things got harder and harder. Had the first time been as difficult as in later years, I don't know about him but at least I would probably have told myself that I ain't good enough. Those were the days when we had no role models. How were we to know what was and was not within our reach?!]
His professional interest, intellectual curiosity and desire to help the less fortunate have taken him to China several times and for long durations (and also to other parts of the world that I didn't get to hear much about because he was out of the country so much). After I boasted about my four extended tours to China, I felt silly, without his intending (of course), by the depth of his knowledge about China, its people and their language.
It was during these years when he lived in China that I, having had a role in the nomination of officers, tried to get him involved in the KAEA (Korean-American Economic Association) affairs. Only if we had the email then, he would have been more deeply drawn in.
During his illness, we had frequent phone conversations and a lot more email exchanges. Invariably, he was in excellent spirit, assuring of others' concerns, and cracking jokes as if nothing was happening. I remember the first time he told me of his terminal illness. Before I could think of some comforting words, he said, unfailingly caring of others: "it is nothing compared to what Hank has been going through," referring to our common friend who is afflicted with debilitating illness. He didn't talk about death or dying, at least in the context of his own. The only time he mentioned it, it was as "kicking the bucket." He was not in denial; it was not giving up one's hope and trying one's best, the same way he lived his entire life.
His was a life of caring and loving for others; of teaching how to think in lectures and how to live by examples; being spiritual and metaphysical without being religious; and unassuming and self-effacing in relating to others. The life he lived and shared with us would live on in the memory of those of us who were fortunate to have known him.
Yes, yes, we all know: We are all born to die. . . He did live past 80 years of age. But as an English proverb says, "Death always comes either too early or too late." In his case, let it be said, it is definitely the former.
If my memory serves, it was you who emailed me a long time ago the following: "When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying" (by 'anonymous' - the favorite writer for both of us). Bravo, you did so live your life! Smile! We weep in celebration of your life lived so fully and so well.
Young Chin Kim
Professor emeritus, Northern Illinois University
February 5, 2009
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